Say Anything “Enchanting”
This Lloyd Dobler quote from Say Anything is STUCK in my head:
“I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.”
I am reading Guy Kawasaki‘s book, “Enchantment: The Art of Changing Hearts, Minds and Actions” and was thinking about what it means to be “enchanting” and what a big responsibility that it is to be careful who you “enchant” and what you do with that power. Being manipulated or played isn’t cool. I try to be a straight shooter, WYSIWYG (What You See Is What You Get)…but there’s the ewwy gooey stuff that only certain people will ever know about me and I think that’s ok. I prefer to protect myself from predators or people who might not be right by me.
On a good day I am pretty sure who is on #TeamJessica but then there’s the doubts. I usually trust my gut, that little voice that screams from the inside. It’s hard though…people will tell you everything you need to know about them, and if you listen you know where you stand but we are all human and I guess we filter and see/hear what we want. Misread signs so to speak, or hopeful thinking.
My head wants to wrap around things that don’t add up or that are fishy. Like when I think people are lying to me or stretching the truth, they justify their behavior for whatever their reasons are. I have always thought “you spot you got it.” That works in reverse too, when you can’t quite put your finger on something it might be because you don’t have it in you…so if you are around people that give you these redflags maybe it’s best to avoid, or let them know “homey don’t play that.”
I once dated a guy who was a real piece of work, had some substance abuse induced anger issues, not to label anyone…ahh the things you wish you knew before you got involved, like maybe we should all come with something like a “carfax”, so you can look under the hood, so to speak, before you buy, right…or wrong? I guess I kind of like the way it feels to grow from the people around me: good or bad, I always learn something…something about them, something about me…something I carry to the next friendship/relationship/situation.
True story, sometimes I wonder if I am “playing with a full deck”…so I did what anyone would do, I asked my therapist. She assured me that crazy people, don’t know they are crazy or even really wonder if they are…that was great news…but as I have said numerous times…I know I got some angst and nutty in me. I am also really sensitive but that”s ok…just means I get to experience life at a very heightened awareness.
I like digging deep inside me, in fact I don’t even know that I feel a certain way until I write it and am sharing it with someone. Maybe you get that?
If you could do anything in the world…money no object…time not important…family aside…responsibility not an issue….what would that be?
I am pretty sure I am doing THAT right now, just being raw and figuring out who I am and how proud I am that I can look in the mirror and like what I see!
Physically: I am now 3 pounds away from my 1st goal weight I set out to do a year ago. (Big thanks to @JoyceCherrier for her help with this-I didn’t do it alone!)
Spiritually: I am down with G-O-D…yeah you know me…everybody sing!
Mentally: I am working on being a better writer, speaker, doer, mover, shaker, reader.
Emotionally: I can be all kinds of messed up some days. But, like that song Bent from MatchBox 20…I am not broken, I am JUST bent…and one day I will get put back together and attract that which I know I deserve, but right now I look down at my feet and realize I am standing exactly where I am meant to stand at this point in my life. And I know that there is a bigger picture….
Tell what is going on in your life? How are you enchanting those around you or even being enchanted by them?